What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
4 You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. 5 Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us? 6 But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:
“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” 7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. 9 Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.
What is going on within our own hearts, and how does it affect our relationships and our calling in life? This passage addresses that: if we harbor wrong motives and desires which the world system places before us instead of that coming from God...especially if we exalt our own pleasures over everything else...we will be misled and fall into disunity and conflict with others. But friendship with God brings grace and solace if we approach him in prayer with humility as empty vessels, possessing nothing on our own but needing everything instead...i.e., embracing spiritual poverty, as the pastor noted. With this fundamentally changed outlook and its fruits of new behaviors marked by grace, compassion, and forgiveness, relationships can be developed with God's unifying love strengthening them...
In presenting this talk, Pastor Philip employed an allusion to the game of baseball: imagine a baseball diamond, with home plate, first base, second base, and third. Then project on these bases the stages of Christian development...home base represents Christ himself and the acceptance of him as savior. First base is character, which is expressed by the transformation through time of one's own heart as a believer. Second base is community, which are the relationships the believer forms and fosters, be they marriage, family, work, church, friends, neighbors, etc. And third base represents competence...finding and implementing God's calling for one in his or her life. The pastor pointed out that the bases have to be run in order...you can't skip home (salvation) to get to first (character), and you can't skip first and successfully form and maintain relationships (second base). Good word picture, but I have one question: "Who's on first?" Abbott and Costello aside, this is still a pertinent question. For it seems to me that all four bases are simultaneously in play, and we all have to deal with that. After all, the work within our hearts to improve our character is a lifelong task: one never leaves first base, in a manner of speaking. But perhaps a better way to look at it...and here the baseball analogy loses some of its force...is that as we mature and grow in our character, the next area, community, will then grow. So while we're engaged in all areas, it's the growth and effectiveness within each area that is ordered, from home to first to second to third...