Monday, March 28, 2022

Podcaster Rob Dial Muses on Self-Belief and Action

On one of Rob Dial's Mindset Mentor podcasts last week, the motivational coach brought up an interesting topic: why do so many people nowadays think that they must possess supreme confidence and belief in themselves before they can even begin a self-improvement project?  Dial maintains that they have it all backwards...nothing inherently wrong with positive self-talk and affirmations, but first we need to act, throw ourselves into the fray, so to speak.  Then, as the results of our actions become manifest, we can act on them while at the same time gradually build up that sense of self-confidence and belief that we had erroneously thought to be a prerequisite to getting started.  It's a variation of Dial's maxim "Ready fire, aim", juxtaposing the last two terms of this common exhortation to emphasis the need for action up front, followed by adjustment.  It's also an indictment of the overthinking folks tend to engage in before they undertake meaningful endeavors, especially the ones in which ego and potential social humiliation could be involved.  One tool I use is the humorous disclaimer "Don't mind me, I'm just a tourist!"...even in my hometown...whenever I screw up: a sense of humor about oneself is certainly helpful.  And as we engage ourselves in the activities that are important to us, stumbling is often on the menu: get used to it and don't fear it to the point where it immobilizes you.  But as our host also often says, we don't fail when we mess up while trying...on the contrary that's inevitable for growth. Failure is only the result of either never starting or giving up...

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