You're under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago.
---Alan Watts
Alan Watts was a twentieth century English philosopher, with a multitude of relevant quotes that we can use for ourselves in our daily lives. I think each of us has a personal responsibility for conducting how we live. That having been said, the time of childhood and adolescence, a long span in which much of our eventual place in the adult world is determined...either through family life, economic level, or school performance...is marked by a scientifically recognized immaturity in our brain growth, interfering with our ability to form sound judgments and act on them accordingly. Yet we are unfairly judged anyway...no matter. What has happened before is gone...maybe the effects of the past linger, but I can make my own decisions...not just today, but at this very moment. But I've also heard that relationships are supposed to be so very crucial to one's happiness and fulfillment. Some of those who are the most familiar with me and think they "know" me, I believe, are the most resistant to accepting any change I consciously make in my life, even for the better. It reminds me of the Joni Mitchell song Both Sides Now, which Judy Collins made into a big hit "But now old friends, they're acting strange. They shake their heads, they say I've changed. Well, something's lost but something's gained in living every day." As for me, I find the idea of changing myself wholesale in a matter of minutes akin to jumping to the top of a tall building...and I'm no Superman. No problem: I can change little habits without abandoning whatever virtues I've built up over the years. Besides, once folks get over the notion that I'm going to change anyway, they can them accustom themselves to me as "The Changer"...