Simultaneous Universal Opposition

We in this America of ours today find ourselves in a particular situation, politically: all of us (the ones who actually care one way or another, that is) find ourselves simultaneously as being in the "opposition".  If we belong to a fringe party or belief system outside of the standard Republican/Democratic paradigm, then we're always in the opposition, regardless. But nowadays even the mainstream finds itself feeling left out of the process while the "other guys" are in there doing things that we just don't like.  For Republicans, they have had a Democratic liberal president in Barack Obama since 2009...not only has he passed a national health insurance law (although it was largely based on Mitt Romney's Republican plan in Massachusetts and took into account features of the Heritage Foundation's proposals of the early 1990's) and had the temerity to shake the hands of both Hugo Chavez and Raul Castro, but he hasn't even invaded another country yet (threatened attacks against Syria, the assassination of Bin Laden, and drone strikes in Pakistan and Yemen probably wouldn't count).  Yes, to them that Democrat is "out of control".  Would be that we had a GOP president, they would probably be completely ignoring calls to balance the budget as they had the entire time that their "guy" Bush was in there running the country for the previous eight years while running up massive deficits.  The Democrats, for their part, see the tea party everywhere, controlling the House of Representatives and slowing the legislative process to a standstill and shutting down the government...and state governorships and legislatures are dominated in most states by the Republicans, who are basically passing laws against women's reproductive rights, restricting voter access to the polls, getting rid of government unions, and refusing to participate in Obamacare by not allowing Medicaid expansion....but generally faring quite well when it comes to balancing their budgets, encouraging business development, and keeping taxes low.

I recognize that there is good and bad on both sides, and I'd like for the good people who hold office to see this as well and work together to implement the good while rejecting the bad.  Instead, though, I see demonization and hyperbole as the sadly emerging norm when it comes to dealing with the opposing party...